Saturday, May 14
i just don't know how to be a good parent, the solution completely escapes me; i am in waters for which i am unprepared, fighting a current i cannot see nor predict; and i feel that my whole being hinges on the outcome of this encounter - and yet - i am so ill equipt. every time i talk to him it is measured in degrees of failure, my failure. the god above has made a grave error in trusting me in this task.
2 comments:
Please don't feel so discouraged .... I had days like that raising you five kids but look how good you have all turned out... you are doing better then you think... hang in there.... DO NOT count yourself an unfit parent ... you are good and getting better all the time... just smile, give them hugs and tell them you love them.... then go pray :) :)
You didn't ask for advice, but I think I'll take a chance and give it to you anyway because I love you and want you to feel good about this awesome responsibility of being a parent. There is so much I would like to change about the kind of parent that I was when our kides were growing up. I never felt like I was doing a good job. Now that I have the perspective of hind-sight, I think the answer to being a good parent lies in LOVE, involvement in their lives, LOVE, letting our children be who they are and LOVING them for who they are, and not sweating the small stuff. I was lousy at all of that, but look how well they turned out. I think it is because their dad was patient and loving and saw the good in them. Something I learned a long time ago that has served me well is to treat someone as if they are the person you want them to be and they will become that person. Good luck, it's not easy, but very rewarding. Teenagers are difficult creatures, but they have so much potential if we don't break their spirits. Hang in there--you're not as bad as you think.
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